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Why Gay Marriage Is Straight Business

By Dr. Jeff Mirus ( bio - articles - email ) | Jul 06, 2011

The most common complaint from drive-by shooters about my recent essay Gay Marriage and the Next Gulag is this: Letting gays marry doesn’t prevent me from living out my own vision of marriage, so why don’t I just leave other people alone? Here are ten good reasons why this issue has immense public repercussions, in which everyone has a stake. It is simply not an option for good citizens to ignore the problem of gay marriage.

  1. Denial of Reality is Deadly: The idea of marriage for same-sex couples is a denial of the nature of marriage. As a general principle, the public denial of any reality does significant harm not only to all those in denial but to the culture as a whole.
  2. People Ought Not to be Forced to Affirm a Lie: Legal recognition of gay marriage carries with it an insistence that everyone recognize its validity and cease to articulate key portions of the moral law. Political power should never be used to force citizens to affirm what is false.
  3. Education Should be Free of Propaganda: Acceptance of gay marriage increases the pressure to affirm the gay lifestyle and promote alleged gay rights in public education. Parents have both a duty and a right to keep their children’s education free of propaganda and ideology.
  4. Devaluing Authentic Marriage Damages Society: By its very nature, gay “marriage” further devalues any society's bedrock institution, an institution which in most cases is already reeling. The demise of true, monogamous, life-long marriage between one man and one woman is a sociological and psychological disaster in any culture.
  5. Tax and Benefit Laws Should Serve Positive Purposes: To privilege gay marriage in tax and benefit laws simply supports an institution which serves no possible benefit to society. Citizens have a very legitimate interest in how taxes and benefits are levied and applied.
  6. Gay Adoption Puts Children at Risk: The very least that can be said about same-sex “parents” raising a child is that it is an unnatural arrangement. This cannot fail to do psychological damage to the vulnerable children who will be placed as adoptees with gay “families”.
  7. A Gay Culture Leads to Sexual Abuse of Children: The inside story of gay denunciation of the sexual abuse of children is that many gay groups promote man-boy “love” and persistently advocate for lowering of the age of consent. This advocacy is, at a minimum, tolerated by nearly the entire gay community. In this matter the script is almost always doubled, that is, one thing is said for public consumption, with the opposite affirmed on the inside. (Note: In this connection, note that while the percentage of priests involved in sexual abuse of children runs below the average for other institutions, eighty percent of this abuse is homosexual abuse, thereby making the percentage of gay priests involved in sexual abuse extremely high. All indications are that this is typical.)
  8. Gay Sex is a Public Health Disaster: Legitimizing gay marriage clearly legitimizes gay sex. Not only is gay sex extremely dangerous to the health of its participants, about whom we ought to be concerned, but its public health costs are enormous.
  9. Gay Marriage Demeans Chaste Homosexuals: Approval of gay marriage makes it even more difficult for those with homosexual tendencies to live chastely, as the laws of both nature and God demand. This sends all the wrong signals. Society should support chastity among those with homosexual inclinations, not harass them by classifying these unwanted inclinations as the stuff of which marriage is made.
  10. The Law is a Strong Teacher: All persons have an important interest in the teaching value of the laws by which they are governed. While the law may sometimes ignore evil without fault, as not every evil can be hindered effectively by government, it must never deliberately enshrine or promote a moral evil. Every citizen has both a right and a duty to oppose laws which promote moral evil, leading people astray and weakening the social order.

I have tried to limit myself to reasons embedded in the natural order, including the civil order. Much could be said about the supernatural order as well. When a human law enshrines a vice, it makes it harder for those tempted by that vice to learn virtue, and harder still to realize their need for God, that they might turn and be saved.

Moreover, when those claiming to be Christian (including some Catholics who have written to me) subscribe to a convenient indifferentism on this issue, they exchange true charity for mere niceness. They demonstrate that they are not animated by the Spirit of Christ, who desires the ultimate good of each of His creatures in an ecstatic union with the holiness of God forever.

Jeffrey Mirus holds a Ph.D. in intellectual history from Princeton University. A co-founder of Christendom College, he also pioneered Catholic Internet services. He is the founder of Trinity Communications and See full bio.

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  • Posted by: williiam ronner - Jul. 28, 2011 8:12 PM ET USA

    Our job on earth is to get those we love to the highest level of existence, heaven. How does our acceptance of the practice of homosexuality get our relatives who are practicing this abomination serve our loved ones. Better to guide them towards a moral lifestyle than to support them during their brief earthy stay at the expense of their eternal salvation.

  • Posted by: - Jul. 12, 2011 1:37 PM ET USA

    The truth will set us free. Christ came to bring fire and the sword. You are joining him in that mission. Thank you!

  • Posted by: MAG - Jul. 11, 2011 6:16 PM ET USA

    Well said Jeff. It should be added - at every opportunity - that this vast expansion of state power, along with the underlying rationale posited for this will prove to be disastrous for civil liberties in itself. Reference George Weigel at

  • Posted by: Pat - Jul. 10, 2011 10:21 AM ET USA

    To those lawmakers who think legislation like this is forward looking "Jesus is the same today as He was yesterday and He will be tomorrow"

  • Posted by: Pat - Jul. 10, 2011 10:19 AM ET USA

    Public and goverment supprt of same sex marriage it a sin of sloth on a major scale. I fear that the United States, due to laziness and too much of the "good" life, will be heading down the path of Sodom and Gommora. Not only the stumbling blocks lawmakers throw up to appease the few--a loss for humnaity in the eyes of God--but the lesson it teach to "just hold on and keep complaining and you will get your way," shows what little moral backbone we have actually kept within our own souls.

  • Posted by: Saved by Grace - Jul. 09, 2011 10:14 PM ET USA

    Thanks for this excellent piece. Too few people are willing to say these things publicly! Thanks that you are not one of them!

  • Posted by: - Jul. 09, 2011 7:36 PM ET USA

    Excellent points.

  • Posted by: pannw - Jul. 09, 2011 3:08 PM ET USA

    The same people argue that this 'doesn't affect' me, so I should mind my own business, when it has already been proven in courts of law to affect Christians who do not want to be forced to affirm it: ie, A photographer has been sued and lost for not wanting to photograph lesbian ceremony. Baker has come under city inquiry for not wanting to bake rainbow cupcakes...B&B owners sued and lost for not wanting to rent room in their home to 'gay' men... Yet they keep saying it doesn't. They are liars.

  • Posted by: - Jul. 07, 2011 8:59 AM ET USA

    " . . . they exchange true charity for mere niceness." Indeed, that puts it too kindly. The modern "virtue" of tolerance is in fact just indifference - it doesn't even rise to level of niceness. Try telling one of these folk that, on average, homosexual men cut 20 years off their life expectancy, more than smokers (13.5 yrs). Christians should care about this.