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By Diogenes (articles ) | May 11, 2008

Meanwhile, back at the Busted Halo, a young Catholic braces herself to receive some bad news from her lesbian mother. But it turns out it's only apostasy.

"I need to tell you something." My mom said.
"Okay." I prepared myself for something tragic, when instead I heard,
"I’m not Catholic anymore, I just thought you should know."

For a minute there, Ma, you had her worried.

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  • Posted by: - May. 12, 2008 2:39 PM ET USA

    One day, we will hear of the Heroic story of the mother or father who struggled lifelong with Same Sex Desires, but through confession, humility and charity, overcame their desires, and was able to live a faithfully Catholic Life. This will be the admission of a parent to an adult child. The admission will be so astounding to the child, because the life of the parent will be so obviously one of fidelity to the Catholic Faith. In that story we will see grace at work. Unlike this story.

  • Posted by: - May. 12, 2008 11:51 AM ET USA

    What strikes me is the mother's complete absence of humility, both before and after her apostasy. She never really seems to have believed that the church had much to teach her. She was always superior and above it all and approached the magisterium with a hermeneutic of suspicion. I seriously doubt this "apostasy" will make much of a difference in her life.

  • Posted by: - May. 12, 2008 7:43 AM ET USA

    What struck me about the article was the tenuousness of the mother’s connection to the Church. After declaring her homosexual inclinations, “Service opportunities became scarce and calls stopped being returned.” And so she separates herself from the Body of Christ because of some (perceived) uncharitable snubs from other sinners? And in the post above, Frs. Burnet and McCarthy would rather endure being hanged, drawn, and quartered than abandon the Roman faith.

  • Posted by: - May. 11, 2008 6:23 PM ET USA

    I think Diogenes is being unfair here. His suggest that this story's author expects bad news, but "it's only apostasy". Yet if you read the story, it's clear that the author is far more shocked, and far more affected in the short term and the long term, by her mother leaving the Church than by her mother's sexuality. And how much of the daughter's belief system has been shaped by the mother? Does the daughter need to be accused of heresy, or gently introduced to the truth?

  • Posted by: - May. 11, 2008 5:34 PM ET USA

    I don't know what is more worrying: that the mother (who, judging from the full story, clearly taught her children pure Modernism of the God-doesn't-judge-anyone-it's-all-about-being-yourself type) destroyed her children's faith - though you'll be relieved to know that they're still 'spiritual' - or that the girl who wrote this saccharine account is studying creative writing. No, OK - the first is infinitely worse. But I still wish this girl could punctuate properly.

  • Posted by: - May. 11, 2008 11:53 AM ET USA

    When you read the full story, the daughter suggests to the mother that she could become an Episcopalian and get ordained! She is as sadly confused as her mother. What's also astounding is deeply roooted notion coming from the culture that this is some proble with the Church and there's nothing you can do about homosexual attraction. Just recently an episode of Law and Order talked about "the gay gene" as if it were scientific fact. There's heavy fatalism at work here.

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