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By Diogenes (articles ) | Sep 10, 2007

Mark Steyn got it right. The following lines of his were written in 2001, in the week following September 11.

Even on that first day they were saying "everything's changed". But what exactly? The main difference seemed to be tonal. These days, an army of grief counsellors can arrive at a high school shooting quicker than a SWAT team. But, when they showed up last week to ply their grisly trade, they found few takers. In my general store, on the TV up above the ammunition and tampons, the local station, temporarily lacking any other local angle, fished a pain-feeler out of the Rolodex. "But a lot of people are saying they feel very angry," the interviewer gamely pointed out.

"That's okay," said the grief counsellor. "Often, in the early stages, when we're processing pain and hurt and sorrow, it can emerge as anger. So it's okay to feel anger."

Clustered round the TV, sipping coffee, the guys were vaguely irritated by this, raising the interesting question of whether it's okay to feel anger toward the grief counsellor. "Processed pain" is as bland and unsatisfying as processed cheese, and its self-evident irrelevance to the occasion seemed the most pitiful bad taste.

I wonder if the modern Grief Industry has sprung up in the vacuum left by vanished belief in the Four Last Things: Death, Judgment, Heaven, Hell. Lacking any objective and ultimate human purpose, any notion of salvation or its opposite, the heathen hire a corps of professionals who connect them to their grief like a fakir feeding a snake its own tail. In the final act of recursive solipsism, I suppose, the self will disappear with a pop.

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  • Posted by: - Sep. 11, 2007 3:38 PM ET USA

    'The anger of man does not satisfy God's righteousness.'

  • Posted by: - Sep. 10, 2007 11:50 PM ET USA

    "So it's okay to feel anger." Thank you m'Lord, for your gracious condescension. I still remember my hot anger when the astonishingly brave men of the Apollo program set foot on the moon and here on Earth we were presumptuously assured by liberals that it was ok for us to feel pride.

  • Posted by: - Sep. 10, 2007 8:32 PM ET USA

    Diogenes, a four star day! This is a great piece by you and Steyn.

  • Posted by: - Sep. 10, 2007 7:24 PM ET USA

    "fakir feeding a snake its own tail" Until the snake's diocese files for bankruptcy.

  • Posted by: - Sep. 10, 2007 6:04 PM ET USA

    Quaker Parker Palmer tells us that the loss of community has meant the explosion of professionalism, with which we have monetized everything. Families used to surround us when trouble struck; now we get grief counselors. Priests advised us for free when we sin; now we get psychotherapists who tell us it's daddy's fault. And Medicare/Medicaid (that is your tax dollars) pays for it.

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