‘Growing up with 2 moms’
August 07, 2012
Robert Oscar Lopez, an English professor at the University of California at Northridge, discusses his experience of growing up as a child of his mother and her lesbian partner.
“To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A’s,” he recounts. “Inside, however, I was confused. When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.”
“Whether homosexuality is chosen or inbred, whether gay marriage gets legalized or not, being strange is hard; it takes a mental toll, makes it harder to find friends, interferes with professional growth, and sometimes leads one down a sodden path to self-medication in the form of alcoholism, drugs, gambling, antisocial behavior, and irresponsible sex,” he adds. “The children of same-sex couples have a tough road ahead of them--I know, because I have been there.”
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