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Catholic Culture Dedication

Love and Marriage

By Dr. Jeff Mirus ( bio - articles - email ) | Jan 31, 2012

I was listening to the third track of the Classic Sinatra II album, and I suddenly did a double-take. The song was “Love and Marriage” by Sammy Cahn and Jimmy Van Heusen, which became a huge hit by Frank Sinatra in 1955, just 57 years ago. Here are the lyics:

Love and marriage, love and marriage
Go together like a horse and carriage.
This I tell you brother:
You can’t have one without the other.

Love and marriage, love and marriage,
It’s an institute you can’t disparage.
Ask the local gentry
And they will say it’s elementary.

Try, try, try to separate them.
It’s an illusion.
Try, try, try, and you will only come
To this conclusion.

Love and marriage, love and marriage
Go together like a horse and carriage.
Dad was told by mother:
You can’t have one without the other.

Trying to separate them now? Like the song says, it’s an illusion. But they don’t write ’em like they used to, do they?

Jeffrey Mirus holds a Ph.D. in intellectual history from Princeton University. A co-founder of Christendom College, he also pioneered Catholic Internet services. He is the founder of Trinity Communications and CatholicCulture.org. See full bio.

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  • Posted by: Randal Mandock - May. 24, 2019 6:14 PM ET USA

    I know you want to keep this column compact, but I think the full quote from Sandro Magister is justified: "If by 'proselytism' Francis means a missionary effort pushed to the extreme, forced, measured by the number of the newly baptized, it is a mystery from where he would gather the conviction that this is a real 'danger' in the Catholic Church that 'is popping up again today.'" This is the point of many of our comments for the last 6 years: where in the Church is this straw man evangelizer?

  • Posted by: - Feb. 01, 2012 11:41 AM ET USA

    Distinctly missing in the song is *Children*. The primary end of marriage is Children. No marriage without love feeds the ideology that if feelings of love are gone, the marriage is dead. The Boomers redefined marriage as an institution primarily of companionship with an afterthought of children. When the joys of companionship go, ditch the spouse. The new definition leaves no defense against gay "marriage". Try instead the childhood rhyme: "First comes love, then comes... with a baby carriage."