"as if she was a trendy pet dog ..."
Psychologist Gerard van den Aardweg offers a professional close-up perspective on counterfeit families.
The emotional ties of persons with a homosexual complex to their parents remain as they were in childhood and adolescence: dependence on the mother, aversion, contempt, fear or indifference toward the father in the male; often ambivalent feelings as to the mother and (less often) emotional dependence on the father in the female. Such emotional immaturity is further reflected in the fact that not a few homosexuals are not deeply interested in children, in spite of outer appearances, as they are too self-absorbed and want all attention for themselves, as real children do.
For example, a homosexual man who, together with his friend, had adopted a daughter, later confessed that they had done it in order to show off, "as if she was a trendy pet dog; everybody looked at us when we, as ostentatious homosexuals, entered a room with her."
Hence the good people of Boston are baffled by the continued resistance of the Catholic Church to gay adoption: doesn't the Vatican understand what it takes to make a party go?
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Posted by: rpp -
Mar. 08, 2006 6:14 PM ET USA
I know of several couples who had their "one and only" just to show him/her off. Also, how many parents live vicariously through their children? While I am absolutely oppsed to gay adoption, I think we have to acknowledge that this example is not isolated to homosexuals.
Posted by: parochus -
Mar. 07, 2006 11:28 AM ET USA
Fascinating. And scientifically confirming the adage that homosexual men are not men who act like women, they're men who act like teenage girls.
Posted by: Fiducia -
Mar. 07, 2006 11:07 AM ET USA
Why so much resistance to the Church's adoption position among non-gay Bostonians ---- a warped understanding of the parents' role. Heaven is rarely the goal in mind. A baby wanted more by its grandparents than parents. A dressed-up tot paraded to boost a parent's ego. A youngster burdened by a parent who needs a friend and confidant. A teenager manipulated by a parent to become a "mini Me." Unfortunately, a lot of families have much in common with gay couples with children.